Titus 2:3-5

‘Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. ‘

TITUS 2 GATHERING: a time when sisters in Christ, of all ages (typically teenagers and up), come together for approximately 3-4 hours for the purpose of the older women teaching and training the younger women. This is done through fellowship, worship, and a time of sharing wisdom.

I have hosted 3 of these events but today I want to walk you through how you can host your own! I pray you would not take what I say as something set in stone. There are many ways you can create a gathering like this. So keep in mind, what I explain below is not the only way to do it! What is important is that you listen to the Lord as He leads you to host this gathering

Invitations

This is not an event hosted through my Church but rather something I have coordinated on my own! So, when it comes to inviting women, this is something I want to encourage you to be prayerful about. What this looks like for me is gathering younger women (women who don’t have adult children or are not old enough to have adult children) who love the Lord and who cherish the insight of older Godly women! Next, I pray and ask my fellow sisters to pray about older women to invite who we know love the Lord and give Spirit led wisdom and most importantly who meet the requirements of Titus 2 – reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. This is so essential because the whole event revolves around receiving wisdom from older women! So pray pray pray. 

When it comes to how many women, I would say 20 women or less is around the sweet spot. I find that when the event is too big, it can be hard for women to open up. However, seek wisdom from the Lord as He may be leading you to gather a small group of women or maybe a large group of women!

Typically my sister, Melanie, will create a digital invite on Canva that we send out to the women! On the invitation we ask the older women to bring a word of encouragement or Bible verse to share, that way they have time to pray and seek the Lord and don’t feel caught off guard when they arrive! Also, on the invitation, we ask the younger women to bring a dish to pass. As someone who loves to host, I am often reminded of how much other women love to offer help so do not hesitate to ask women to participate by bringing something to contribute! This does not need to be fancy or expensive! At our latest event, we had a Tea Party theme but that was only due to the fact that I had a tea set that I had been wanting to use. Do not feel like you need to do all of these things and create something extravagant. I firmly believe that more than anything women are just excited to be together and fellowship!

Our last event went from 1-4 pm and if I am honest, I wish I would have made it longer! Now, I know that seems like a long time (and it is) but there is nothing worse than trying to rush the Holy Spirit! This is an event we only do a couple times a year and we seek to give women a month in advance heads up so they have plenty of time to clear their schedules! This can be done in someone’s home, at a church or at a park!

TITUS 2 SCHEDULE

Tea + Fellowship

This takes place for the first half hour to hour and gives the women an opportunity to meet new people as everyone does not know each other! Scripture talks so much about breaking bread with one another. We see it all over Acts! It is such a beautiful time and opens up conversations and connections that can take place after the event.

Introductions

After fellowship, I did a little intro to all the ladies, thanking them for coming and I prayed for them! I set the stage for our time together by reading Titus 2 and took a moment to encourage the older women as well as the younger women. I encouraged the older women to not shy away from sharing what the Lord has done in their lives, to be vulnerable, and to be mindful that there may be a younger woman here walking through a situation they themselves once walked through. I asked them to prayerfully consider sharing details that may seem hard or shameful for the sake of edifying their sisters but also to glorify God (who has been at work in their lives)! Overall, I encourage them to give wisdom from the Holy Spirit and not their flesh. For the younger women, I encouraged them to pray for a softened heart! It may sound really nice for an older woman to encourage you, to speak life and to bless you…However, maybe we are too prideful to receive it or maybe our flesh is too offended at what an older woman has said that we hold a grudge! I specifically take time, on my own, to prayer walk my home to pray for softened hearts, to pray for the Lord to be glorified and to pray for every woman who is set to join us!

Following this, we go around and have each woman introduce themselves. They say their name, if they are married and have kids, if they are stay at home moms or if they work and anything else you’d like them to share. I love being able to have a range of women that can speak life over one another and I think it’s beneficial for the woman to learn who may be in the room with them.

Worship and Communion

This can look however the Lord leads but for our latest gathering, one of the sisters led us in worship and for the first time at this event, we also partook in Communion together! Communion is for the saints, so I would be prayerful about doing this if you choose to invite non-believers. Together we sang a few hymns that we figured most of the women knew! At previous events, we just used a speaker and played music out loud and we all sang together, while this most recent time we used our piano. This is a great example of making use of what you have to glorify the Lord!

Time of Wisdom

For the younger women there was paper, pens, and a basket for them to write down a question and place their question for the older woman. Certain information may feel a little intimidating for women to share in a room full of women they may not know, so we really emphasize keeping the questions anonymous so nothing keeps women from seeking the wisdom they are looking for! 

After we completed our introductory and worship time, I read through the basket of questions and just allowed the conversation to flow. There is no strict structure here. Sometimes I ask a question and then one older woman answers and another chimes in with more wisdom, which then leads a younger woman to ask a question. The Holy Spirit is so tangible in these moments!! We continue to do this until our time is up. I will let you know though, most times women (including myself) never want it to end! These moments are so precious, incredibly rich in wisdom and full of encouragement that it is hard to just stop but oh how I believe Heaven rejoices seeing his daughters gathered like this!

If you are interested in hearing some of the things that were talked about at the most recent Titus 2 event I hosted, I highly recommend watching the video below to get a glimpse as to what the Lord can do in these sorts of settings! 

I will be praying for you sisters as you consider hosting your own Titus 2 event! May the Lord bless you and the women that attend, whether it be 3 or 33 women – it does not matter! Do it unto the Lord! Don’t allow the little things and details, like your house being clean or that you don’t have x, y, or z to keep you from obeying the Lords prompting to host this with fellow Sisters! 

Colossians 3:23-24

‘Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ. ‘